Coping with Heartbreak

Stripped down, raw and painful. Heartbreak can be so difficult to understand and it’s something many of us, myself included, have a lot of experience with.

After a fairly recent breakup, I became interested in coping methods, as well as the reason why the human brain processes romantic loss as if it’s a death. It’s fascinating that the emotional anguish felt from romantic loss, depending on the degree of attachment, can cause actual physical pain. For me, it’s like angry butterflies in my stomach followed by tears streaming from my eyes. *fun times* It can be triggered by a certain smell or a song, an item that was left behind or a photo I find still lingering on my phone. I’m not a lover of these emotions at all nor am I a fan of having to go through the healing process, but it’s necessary for strong emotional health.


It’s important to remember that relationships will come and go as you learn more about who you are and what you truly want and need from a relationship. This is something I’ve had to come to accept over time. I’ve struggled to truly disconnect from my love. It feels as if I’m betraying my own heart, but the real betrayal is to stay where I no longer belong.

When you allow the healing process to work in it’s full capacity, you can find the beauty in the relationship, the loss of it and the lessons the union left behind.

Today, I’m sharing what I’ve learned to do in order to cope with the loss of romantic love. After you’ve watched the video, come on back over and join the conversation in the comments section.  

XO, Lesa



  1. Melissa
    May 11, 2018 / 11:33 pm

    Hi Lesa, loved your blog!

    One question though, do you unfollow the person on social media? I too am bad with relationships, and after a breakup it always takes me a while to unfriend/unfollow, etc., I don’t really want to see who they date next, where they travel, etc.

    Any thoughts on this?

    Melissa šŸ™‚

    • Lesa Wilson
      May 12, 2018 / 11:35 am

      Hi Melissa! Thank you. šŸ™‚ Unfollowing the ex on social media is an excellent idea if it causes you to drift back to desiring a connection. It totally depends on how it affects you. If it causes you to feel sadness or long to reconnect, then I say unfollow. If you are past that point in the healing process, you could let it ride as long as it doesn’t cause you any emotional hiccups. I hope that helps!

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